Sex and Spanking

Spanking is a perversion of sex. Consider the basic mechanics of intercourse: clothes are removed, positions assumed, and a repetitive motion is engaged in for the pleasure of ideally both participants. Compare that to a spanking where at a minimum one person's clothes are at least partially removed to expose the buttocks, that person is placed in position, and a repetitive motion is engaged in to create pain for that person.  During sex, the climax is a pleasurable orgasm but during spanking, the climax is blinding, sustained, and nearly unbearable pain. In sex, there is no intentional embarrassment or shame. In spanking, embarrassment and shame are maximized for the one spanked.

As such, the genitals of the person being spanked are important and shouldn't be ignored. Actually, that isn't entirely correct. The person being spanked privately broke a rule. Their misdeed was done in private and secret. Their punishment takes that private and secretive action and exposes it. Thus, the person receiving the spanking should have their privates exposed representing the sin now uncovered for which they are being punished.

But, of course, the privates of good people remain under clothing and are largely ignored except when they are exposed during normal sexual activity. Then they are exposed to lovers: people to which there is an intimate relationship, love and trust. For good people, their genitals are the implements and tools necessary to consummate a loving relationship and they are exposed only when that appropriate opportunity presents itself.

For the naughty, the genitals represent the misdeed, misbehavior, sin, or offense. Their exposure--their display--is entirely appropriate during punishment. Drawing attention to the genitals represents uncovering the misbehavior that precipitated the spanking.

One must also realize that the buttocks can be part of or an extension of the genitals during sex. Spanking the bottom rather than caressing, kissing, or penetrating it turns that part of a person from a source of pleasure to a source of immense pain and humiliation.

As blood flows to the spanked area, it naturally also effects the genitals. Women's labials swell as does the clitoris. They produce lubrication. Essentially, their bodies respond as if sex was eminent even though it is likely and for most women the furthest thing from their mind.

Some men also achieve an erection and a few--especially young men--ejaculate because of either the stimulation of the genitals against whatever surface they find themselves touching or because the spanking stimulates their prostate. Of course, sexual desirability of the spanker can have a dramatic effect on men as well.

Though perhaps pleasurable in the moment of orgasm, finding sexual fulfillment during a spanking is aberrant and since the orgasm was an effect of the punishment, it is fair game for increasing the embarrassment and humiliation of the punished. It is a time of punishment, not sexual pleasure. The spanker should not only point out the inappropriate sexual response but should create it if possible.

When spanking a woman, she should be positioned with her vagina in full view. As when the woman positions herself open, accessible, and ready to accept your lover's touch, kisses, and phallus, she should be positioned in a similar position. Thus positioned ready to receive her lover, she will instead receive her punishment.

The male's uncontrollable erection response should not be ignored. He should be teased verbally and physically. His erection in this case is not a powerful symbol of his male sexual virility but a sign of his inability to control himself and his perversion at finding his punishment exciting. Rather than making him more of a man, it shows that he is an undisciplined child capable only of the most sophomoric sexual responses such as premature ejaculation or inappropriate erections in class or the pool.

During the spanking, both genders may gyrate their hips in mock coital fashion either involuntarily or because such motions provide some stimulation to clitoris or erection. Attention should be drawn to this in order to embarrass or control the spankee. Keeping them still to prevent stimulation is an option and will cause great frustration. However, drawing attention to their lewd behavior by either mocking their movements or encouraging them is very embarrassing.

Orgasms for either gender are the problem of the person being spanked. The spanker doesn't need to allow the orgasm to occur or to be enjoyed if it does occur. It may be advantageous to reduce the intensity of the spanking so that the spankee can finish their "dirty business" which is presumably holding up the punishment. 

Regardless of whether the climax is encouraged or not, an orgasm should be a sign that the spanking should intensify to essentially "spank away" any pleasure being experienced. Since the spanking will be more intense and hurt more after the sexual release, it makes complete sense to allow the release to occur or cause it to occur before or during the spanking.

Though some spankers require private masturbation prior to the spanking in order to eliminate the sexual tension and, thus, make the punishment worse, this eliminates some--though certainly not all--of the humiliation. If the man is sent to the bathroom to ejaculate, the impatient spanker should make a good show of requesting status updates to make it perfectly clear that this momentary indulgence in his pleasure is an inconvenient gift to him. Better perhaps would be to not send him away to ejaculate but to witness the proceedings and provide visual and verbal annoyance at this unnecessary step and his inability to perform it in a timely and visually impressive manner. Of course, it is entirely appropriate to take the task in hand directly and clinically to assure that it is done 'correctly' and ruined appropriately.

Lastly, though the spanking may not be a sexual experience, alluding to sex during spanking will enhance the experience for both parties. The spankee should be reminded that under different circumstances, their nakedness would be welcomed by a lover, the striking blows would be replaced by tender touch, and their writhing moments would be because of pleasure rather than pain. For the spanker and any witnesses, this isn't a sexual experience even if the spankee becomes aroused or achieves orgasm. That sexual response is not only coincidental to the task at hand but itself cause for additional punishment and humiliation.